Marriage: 6 Commitments Lesson 6 "Day by Day"

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Prayer

Chapter 4 “Day by Day”

What does the word “Reconcile” mean to you as it pertains to your marriage?

Reconcile: To restore to friendship or favor after estrangement. To call back into union and friendship the affections which have been alienated.

With those definitions in hand..

-Restore Friendship

-Restore Favor

-Call Back into Union and Friendship

-After Estrangement or Alienation

Do you want to adjust your definition?

Let’s look again at 2 Corinthians 5:14-21

2 Corinthians 5:14–21 CSB

14 For the love of Christ compels us, since we have reached this conclusion, that one died for all, and therefore all died. 15 And he died for all so that those who live should no longer live for themselves, but for the one who died for them and was raised. 16 From now on, then, we do not know anyone from a worldly perspective. Even if we have known Christ from a worldly perspective, yet now we no longer know him in this way. 17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has passed away, and see, the new has come! 18 Everything is from God, who has reconciled us to himself through Christ and has given us the ministry of reconciliation. 19 That is, in Christ, God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and he has committed the message of reconciliation to us. 20 Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, since God is making his appeal through us. We plead on Christ’s behalf, “Be reconciled to God.” 21 He made the one who did not know sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.

(Read my highlighted sentences on page 65)

1 Samuel 3:1–10 CSB

1 The boy Samuel served the Lord in Eli’s presence. In those days the word of the Lord was rare and prophetic visions were not widespread. 2 One day Eli, whose eyesight was failing, was lying in his usual place. 3 Before the lamp of God had gone out, Samuel was lying down in the temple of the Lord, where the ark of God was located. 4 Then the Lord called Samuel, and he answered, “Here I am.” 5 He ran to Eli and said, “Here I am; you called me.” “I didn’t call,” Eli replied. “Go back and lie down.” So he went and lay down. 6 Once again the Lord called, “Samuel!” Samuel got up, went to Eli, and said, “Here I am; you called me.” “I didn’t call, my son,” he replied. “Go back and lie down.” 7 Now Samuel did not yet know the Lord, because the word of the Lord had not yet been revealed to him. 8 Once again, for the third time, the Lord called Samuel. He got up, went to Eli, and said, “Here I am; you called me.” Then Eli understood that the Lord was calling the boy. 9 He told Samuel, “Go and lie down. If he calls you, say, ‘Speak, Lord, for your servant is listening.’ ” So Samuel went and lay down in his place. 10 The Lord came, stood there, and called as before, “Samuel, Samuel!” Samuel responded, “Speak, for your servant is listening.”

How are each of us doing in listening to God?

Spending time with Him through His Word?

Psalm 119:1–8 CSB

1 How happy are those whose way is blameless, who walk according to the Lord’s instruction! 2 Happy are those who keep his decrees and seek him with all their heart. 3 They do nothing wrong; they walk in his ways. 4 You have commanded that your precepts be diligently kept. 5 If only my ways were committed to keeping your statutes! 6 Then I would not be ashamed when I think about all your commands. 7 I will praise you with an upright heart when I learn your righteous judgments. 8 I will keep your statutes; never abandon me.

(Read my highlight on the bottom of 67)

3 Essential Wisdom Perspectives

Harvest Mentality

Investment Mentality

Grace Mentality

Daily Commitments of a Reconciliation Lifestyle

We will give ourselves to a regular lifestyle of confession and forgiveness.

We will make growth and change our agenda.

We will work together to build a sturdy bond of trust.

We will commit to building a relationship of love.

We will deal with our differences with appreciation and grace.

We will work to protect our marriage.

(Hand out the 6 Commitment Markers)

Questions from page 366

1.  List three specific ways a marriage that is “fixed vertically”—in other words, properly focused on God—looks different from a marriage that is not.

2.  What is one habit you are already doing each day to build up your marriage? Brainstorm with your spouse one habit you could add to help each of you feel loved.

3.  Identify a current habit that is tearing down your marriage. What new patterns or system of accountability could you put in place to correct the problem?

4.  Tripp presented many examples of “little moments” and acts of inattention that can slowly destroy a marriage. Which one or two convicted you? Use this opportunity to practice lifestyle reconciliation with your spouse as you confess ways you are being inattentive to him or her.

5.  Reread the six commitments of a healthy marriage. Which one are you doing a good job cultivating and putting into daily practice? Which one needs some work? Think of some practical changes you’d like to make this week to recommit to a healthy marriage.

In Closing

Next week we will begin to “roll up our sleeves” and start focusing on each Commitment.

Please read chapter 5 “Coming Clean: Confession”

Also read all of Psalm 51; James 5:13-16; 1 John 1:5-10

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